As today is World Mental Health Day I am going to be honest with you, over the last month I have been struggling with my Mental Health.
But I am not writing this for sympathy, I am writing this to show that being a 30 year old male this is okay to admit that I have been struggling but most importantly know that I am in control rather that being controlled.
The ways I have been managing my Mental Health is:
For those who don't know, in June I decided to get back on my family tree again with my cousin and take my DNA through Ancestry to gain more information on my family life. When I got the results back it a couple months ago it felt like my world had been split into a thousand pieces like a jigsaw.
It felt so weird having all these names on a screen with no current meaning other than sharing my DNA. A week later I then got my Dad and cousin to order their DNA kit to see if we came up as a match, but while waiting for the results to get back to us, my anxiety got really bad.
Even though deep down we knew we were related, the anxiety I was feeling was constantly giving me loads of doubt.
These are just a couple of questions I can think off hand that was playing in my mind every day.
I was even checking the app every hour or day to see if the results have come through which they hadn't.
Last month I finally got the results back within a couple days of each other with the amazing news that myself, my Dad and my Cousin are in fact related how we planned.
After I got these results I went from being on a major high to feeling quite low.
Due to this I then took a week off doing any family tree work or Mental Health work so I could get some rest in between my normal paid job.
At the start of this week I have come back into the 'office' again to get back into the swing of things.
Something I have learned over the years is that It is okay to have bad days, it is okay to suffer from anxiety and it is certainly okay to take a step back when needed.
But the one thing I must remember is never to feel guilty about this.
As it currently stands, the biggest pandemic we have at the moment is suicide especially in young men and this is so sad and shocking.
There are various reasons why people take their own life but we shouldn't have ever let it get to this stage in the first place.
I'm not saying that COVID isn't as bad but we have to prioritize both factors into what we do.
More and more young people are really suffering with daily life as time goes on and this is why we need to start teaching Mental Health to the younger generation.
This is both in schools and at home.
Something I heard the other week was, if we carry on as we are, we will be going from losing someone to suicide every 40 seconds to every 20 seconds.
From this it tells me that the suicide rates will double in the next couple of years if we carry on as we are and this has to change now.
My good friend Ben West who is another Mental Health campaigner is getting a petition for getting it mandatory that all teachers get Mental Health First Aid trained.
Sadly Ben lost his brother to suicide when they were both teenagers so ever since then he has been campaigning for better Mental Health.
Click here to go and view the petition
Here is a video of my mentor and his son Freddie who was 9 at the time last year discussing mental health.
Something me and my other colleague Mental Health campaigners are constantly talking about is to #ASKTWICE when saying hello to someone, check this video out to see what I mean.
Try these tips to keep your balance, or re-balance yourself.
Treat yourself with kindness and respect, and avoid self-criticism. Make time for your hobbies and favourite projects, or broaden your horizons. Do a daily crossword puzzle, plant a garden, take dance lessons, learn to play an instrument or become fluent in another language.
Taking care of yourself physically can improve your mental health. Be sure to:
People with strong family or social connections are generally healthier than those who lack a support network. Make plans with supportive family members and friends, or seek out activities where you can meet new people, such as a club, class or support group.
Volunteer your time and energy to help someone else. You'll feel good about doing something tangible to help someone in need — and it's a great way to meet new people.
Like it or not, stress is a part of life. Practice good coping skills: do Tai Chi, exercise, take a nature walk, play with your pet or try journal writing as a stress reducer. Also, remember to smile and see the humor in life. Research shows that laughter can boost your immune system, ease pain, relax your body and reduce stress.
Try meditating, Mindfulness and/or prayer. Relaxation exercises and prayer can improve your state of mind and outlook on life. In fact, research shows that meditation may help you feel calm and enhance the effects of therapy.
Decide what you want to achieve academically, professionally and personally, and write down the steps you need to realize your goals. Aim high, but be realistic and don't over-schedule. You'll enjoy a tremendous sense of accomplishment and self-worth as you progress toward your goal.
Although our routines make us more efficient and enhance our feelings of security and safety, a little change of pace can perk up a tedious schedule. Alter your jogging route, plan a road-trip, take a walk in a different park, hang some new pictures or try a new restaurant.
Keep alcohol use to a minimum and avoid other drugs. Sometimes people use alcohol and other drugs to "self-medicate" but in reality, alcohol and other drugs only aggravate problems.
Seeking help is a sign of strength — not a weakness. And it is important to remember that treatment is effective. People who get appropriate care can recover from mental illness and addiction and lead full, rewarding lives.
This morning I completed my 10 mile walk which is part of my monthly walks to raise not only awareness but I am representing everyone out there who is suffering in silence and showing no one is alone.
This morning my colleague Vanessa's uncle died last night so this walk was for him. Sending love to you and your family.
Last months walk took place on Thursday 10th September and I would like to thank my colleague Vanessa and dad who got involved for it.
This years charity is The Sam West Foundation.
If you would like to donate then that would be amazing, click here to go to the Just giving page for more info.
My next walk will take place on Monday 16th November.
Each month if you want to take part in my monthly walks then please do, just record it on your phone and then send me the screenshot of your walk.
Last night the charity who I work very close with on was on ITV talking about Mental Health and lockdown.
Here is the link so you can check it out. I am so proud of everyone involved with this.
Click here to see it.
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